{"id":67777,"date":"2023-10-09T17:52:00","date_gmt":"2023-10-09T17:52:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newcelebworld.com\/?p=67777"},"modified":"2023-10-09T17:52:00","modified_gmt":"2023-10-09T17:52:00","slug":"im-worried-my-familys-secret-mental-health-issues-have-passed-down-to-my-son-the-sun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/newcelebworld.com\/lifestyle\/im-worried-my-familys-secret-mental-health-issues-have-passed-down-to-my-son-the-sun\/","title":{"rendered":"I'm worried my family's secret mental health issues have passed down to my son | The Sun"},"content":{"rendered":"
DEAR DEIDRE: I\u2019VE been living with a lie. I never told my kids that their grandad took his own life when I was young. <\/p>\n
Now my son has mental health issues, I\u2019m terrified.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m a married woman of 45 and my husband knows the deepest secret about my father, but I was never allowed to mention it at home.<\/p>\n
My family talks about my dad\u2019s \u201cheart condition\u201d if asked, and then changes the subject.\u00a0<\/p>\n
I discovered the truth when I was looking for my passport at 15 and stumbled upon my father\u2019s death certificate.<\/p>\n
My son is 26 and he\u2019s had depression and anxiety. He\u2019s not been well since he was 17, but things have got progressively worse. <\/p>\n
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He\u2019s now in therapy and came home last night asking whether there was any family history of mental illness.<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t know what to say. My sister, who is 50, suffered from depression when she was in her 20s. <\/p>\n
I had post-natal depression, but my son doesn\u2019t know.\u00a0 If I tell him the truth, I\u2019ll feel so guilty. I already feel so ashamed of my family history.<\/p>\n
DEIDRE SAYS:\u00a0<\/strong><\/span>It\u2019s time to be honest about your family\u2019s mental health issues. This history is nothing to be ashamed of. <\/p>\n Talking about it and feeling confident about getting help is the way forward and helps prevent suicide. <\/p>\n By covering up and denying there is an issue, \u00a0your son will only feel more isolated and ashamed.<\/p>\n If you are worried about other family members feeling sensitive, it is OK to make him aware they may not be ready to talk openly.\u00a0<\/p>\n Depression isn\u2019t always genetic but, if he knows that others close to him have endured similar battles, it will help him feel less alone.<\/p>\n He\u2019ll get some expert advice from the counsellors at Mind, the mental health charity (mind.org.uk, 0300 123 3393).<\/p>\n My support packs on Depression and Anxiety are packed with advice to help him.<\/p>\n<\/picture>I'M HURT <\/span><\/p>\n
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