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Some break-ups hit hard.<\/p>\n

There have been a rash of celebrity separations in 2023 and I have sailed cheerily through them all. Actors Reese Witherspoon, Sofia Vergara and Natalie Portman; pop stars Taylor Swift, Ariana Grande and Ricky Martin; Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau, and a Jonas Brother married to a Game of Thrones<\/em> actor have all split this year. I\u2019ve been curious, but unfazed.<\/p>\n

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Hugh Jackman and Deborra-lee Furness at the Cannes Film Festival in 1998.<\/span>Credit: <\/span>AP<\/cite><\/p>\n

But then Hugh Jackman and Deborra-lee Furness announced their separation, and I was crushed. Jackman seemed to be that rarest of beasts: a Hollywood star unaffected by fame, incontrovertibly nice, and completely in love with his wife. Furness seemed warm and authentic and funny. I was genuinely hoping they would last the distance.<\/p>\n

We all enjoy a story of enduring love, even those of us \u2013 no, particularly<\/i> those of us \u2013 who did not achieve it ourselves. That doesn\u2019t mean that love is only valid or valuable if it lasts forever, or that divorce is a terrible failure. The Jackmans were together for 27 years. They raised two children, and supported each other over decades. That is a tremendous achievement in itself.<\/p>\n

But love that lasts till death do they part reminds us there is goodness in the world. If two people can love each other, truly and deeply, until the end of their lives, there is hope for us all as a species. Love is the glue that holds our society together. It is the North Star we look for when we\u2019re lost.<\/p>\n

Is it fair to expect an Australian celebrity couple to embody such lofty hopes? Absolutely not. But did they welcome \u2013 even court \u2013 our investment in their love? Yes. I suspect they did.<\/p>\n

Some celebrities are extremely private about their relationships. Margot Robbie, for example, rarely talks about her husband, or even appears with him in public. There is no rule that a famous person must post photos of their spouse on Instagram, or rave about them to journalists.<\/p>\n

But the Jackmans \u2013 particularly Hugh \u2013 were extremely public about their relationship. I know the story of how they met on the set of Corelli<\/i>, and of how they confessed their mutual crushes years later in a kitchen at a dinner party. Jackman spoke about his wife in interviews gushingly and often, and posted about her on the socials, under the hashtag #mydebs.<\/p>\n

I love you so much,<\/i> he wrote as recently as April. I love you with all my heart. <\/i>It drew me in. Who doesn\u2019t want to be adored like Hugh Jackman adored his wife? They were an aspirational, if improbable, couple.<\/p>\n

The Jackmans were not a typical Hollywood match, and this added to their appeal. Jackman is 13 years younger than Furness. He is a movie star, and she is not. We see plenty of celebrity unions of older men with young, beautiful women, but we rarely see the opposite and, when we do, they rarely last. Think of Kylie Minogue splitting from her much younger fiance, or Ashton Kutcher divorcing Demi Moore and taking up with his younger ex co-star.<\/p>\n

I loved watching the Jackmans prove the old (sorry) trope wrong for nearly 30 years. It made my bruised and cynical heart just a little more optimistic. I wanted them to prove it wrong forever. I wanted them to remain the exception to the rule.<\/p>\n

Of course, I have no idea what led to the breakdown of the Jackman marriage. None of us do. The press release (\u201cOur journey now is shifting and we have decided to separate to pursue our individual growth\u201d) told us nothing about the cause of the split, which is all we have the right to know.<\/p>\n

Still, whatever the circumstances of the separation, I feel for Furness. Divorce is tough on everyone, but it is particularly hard on older women. Jackman will almost certainly come out of the separation better, emotionally, professionally and in the eyes of the public. It is unfair and it is infuriating, but in our culture, a 54-year-old male movie star has the kind of currency a 67-year-old woman does not.<\/p>\n

The Jackmans\u2019 is not the first split of the year and it certainly will not be the last. Few will shake my faith in love, just as few celebrity relationships enhance it. But this one made me sad and disappointed, and gave my cynicism a boost that it really did not need.<\/p>\n

I have survived many break-ups, and I will survive many more, but some of them just hit hard.<\/p>\n

Kerri Sackville is an author, columnist and mother of three. Her new book is The Secret Life of You: How a bit of alone time can change your life, relationships and maybe the world<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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