Daily Star Online's Celebrity Sex Doctor Lisa Appleton is sharing her pearls of wisdom once more.
Last week, Big Brother star Lisa put her agony aunt skills to the test and answered a 23-year-old woman's conundrum about how to strike up a sexy office romance with a much older boss.
Body-confident Lisa recommended: "Accidentally drop your pencil, bend over and pick it up and whip your hair subtly.
"Then, you might be a bit more appealing. But don’t overdo it!"
The brunette beauty, 49, has some more strong opinions about the latest nookie nightmare.
'I love whipping my sex slave – but hubby's oblivious'
I’ve got a major secret and I’m not sure if I should tell my hubby.
The two of us have been married for 27 years and were high school sweethearts.
He’s very traditional and has always gone out and earned the bread and butter, preferring me to stay home with the children.
But the kids are all grown up now and away at uni and so I’ve just found myself a bit bored – and it doesn’t help that after all these years our sex life has gone a bit stale.
I like to dominate but as he’s quite traditional and he likes to take the lead. It never used to bother me but recently it has really started to grate.
My friend, who’s always been a bit wild, knows I’ve been a bit bored and at a loose end in recent times, so, a few months ago she invited me on a night out.
Well Lisa, what was meant to be a night of cocktails ended up being a night of just tails if you get my drift.
We ended up at a fetish night.
And while I was a bit mortified at first, I had a few drinks and I really loosened up.
I met a gentleman who was into being dominated and we ended up having crazy sex.
I don’t know what came over me, but I tied him up and was whipping him and spanking him – the lot.
Since then I have met up with the man every Wednesday night and had fun in his sex dungeon and he’s become somewhat my sex slave.
I don’t love him – it’s just a bit of harmless fun, he’s single but knows I’m married and that I don’t want anything more.
It’s also had a majorly positive effect on my marriage as no longer am I the bored housewife as I have this sexy secret so I am a lot happier – therefore I'm also a lot warmer and affectionate towards my husband which I know he loves.
I feel guilty keeping this from him but know he’s happy now he’s got his old wife back, is it okay to just carry on doing what I’m doing and not tell him?
I think it's lovely that you've been together since you were teenage sweethearts at school and you've had this long relationship and happy marriage.
It's secure and steady, which is very rare these days.
It does sound like your husband gets his own way most of the time and he's very happy with that – clearly you're not.
It's probably something you've been thinking about for a long time and as you get older your hormones change as well and you get this new lease of life and you sort of think it's now or never and you've just got to let your hair down and go for things.
So there's a few things going on here.
I think you've been very patient with your husband and understanding when he it comes to him liking to be the dominant one.
Maybe all those years of being dominated by him, has had the adverse affect and made you want to dominate him.
Also, the fact that you've been the mum at home and the kids have now left school and are at university, it's a new lease of life for anyone – especially for you, being the one at home with the children.
I totally understand, it's been building up all these years and it's something you've been compelled to do.
As you said, your friend is wild and asked you out on a night out and you had a lot to drink and ended up in a fetish nightclub and it just happened.
And it's done something to you, because it's made your marriage better – your husband's happier – and it's kind of released something in you – you've enjoyed it, even though there's no love there.
It's like an extreme reaction to how you've been feeling.
So there's nothing really wrong with that.
The problem is, you're now feeling guilty, which is a common thing if you're doing something and you know it's secretive and seedy and there are elements of excitement when you're doing something like that.
However, it could cause a lot of problems and end your marriage and I don't feel you'll continue to see this person every Wednesday, as at some point, it will start to really play on your mind, which it sounds like it is doing already.
You're feeling guilty and your husband might see you start to go a bit depressed maybe, if you keep feeling like that, as it can affect you emotionally too but I totally understand why you've done it.
I would just embrace the moment – you've done it now.
I wouldn't continue seeing this sex slave in the dungeon as much – maybe once a month – back off a bit, as your emotions are starting to come into play now, and you're feeling guilty.
I don't think your husband should find out.
That might be a controversial answer but because he's the dominant one and the traditional one, he might find it too much and it might even give him a heart attack.
So, I'd just back off a little bit but carry on doing what you're doing and I wish you all the best with it.
Lisa will be answering more of your sex and relationship problems next Saturday.
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