Mother reveals her murdered daughter's desperate plea to say goodbye

Mother reveals her murdered daughter's desperate plea to say goodbye

‘I could have held her’: Mother reveals her heartbreak at not being able to say goodbye to murdered daughter after killer threw her phone away as she tried to call parents in last moments

  • Natalie Jarvis was stabbed 20 times by her on-off boyfriend Adam Whelehan 
  • Mother has revealed  heartbreak over not being able to say goodbye to daughter 
  • In a new documentary about the death, Adele Jarvis says she would have done anything to ‘hold her’ and ‘help her’ in Natalie’s final moments

A murdered McDonald’s worker begged for her mother in her final moments but was unable to say goodbye because her callous killer threw away her phone, her heartbroken parents have revealed.

Natalie Jarvis, 23, was stabbed twenty times by her on-off boyfriend Adam Whelehan in 2012, after the BT apprentice was encouraged to kill her by his friends in a sick dare. 

Now, in a candid interview her parents Adele and Mark, and her sister Gemma have revealed their heartbreak eight years on from her death, and shared how they still visit the crime scene in a desperate plea for closure as they still have no explanation for the reason’s behind her daughter’s death.

Speaking in 5STAR’s Countdown to Murder, which airs tonight, Adele says: ‘I have to live with this rage, with not knowing why, she wanted me, I have to know what happened, she wanted me in the last moments of her life. She asked him, begged him, she said “I’m dying, please ring my mum”, and he threw her phone away.

‘I was the last thing on her mind, I would have done anything to be there to just hold her, to hold her, I could have helped her, I could have held her.’ 

A murdered McDonald’s worker begged for her mother in her final moments but was unable to say goodbye because her callous killer threw away her phone, her heartbroken parents have revealed. Natalie Jarvis, 23, was stabbed twenty times by her on-off boyfriend Adam Whelehan in 2012, after the BT apprentice was encouraged to kill her by his friends in a sick dare. Now, in a candid interview her parents Adele and Mark, and her sister Gemma have revealed their heartbreak eight years on from her death. Adele and Natalie are pictured

Whelehan, also 23, was a friend and on-off boyfriend of Natalie when in 2012 he tweeted about murdering her saying: ‘It’s alright to kill someone these days, isn’t it? Think I might do that.’

The killer, egged on by his friends, also tweeted he had a ‘murderous mind’ and bragged about his plans to kill Natalie in the days up to her murder. 

But he knew her family, and always seemed non-threatening around them. 

‘She didn’t put a label on it, but she wasn’t seeing anybody else and they were in a sexual relationship,’ Adele told the 5star programme. 

‘They ate out and went to the cinema, doing everything a normal couple did.

‘She gave us no cause to believe there was anything wrong with the relationship.’

While Whelehan was attentive and kind to Natalie’s face, behind her back he was derogatory, and mocked  her size by calling her ‘JC’ – a cruel jab in reference to comedian James Corden.  

On 1st October 2012, Natalie met Whelehan for a drive after he texted her saying her would take her to Burger King.   

After driving around for hours, Natalie appeared panic and wrote on Facebook: ‘I’ve been kidnapped. Can someone come and rescue me!!!’ 

Her sister and ‘best friend’ Gemma rang her to ask if she was okay, but Natalie played it off as a joke and called her sister a ‘stalker’. 


Killer Whelehan (right), also 23, was a friend and on-off boyfriend of Natalie (left) when in 2012 he tweeted about murdering her saying: ‘It’s alright to kill someone these days, isn’t it? Think I might do that.’

Adam Whelehan’s sick jokes about murdering Natalie Jarvis 

Whelehan claimed that Natalie told him she was pregnant, and that in the weeks before her murder was ‘harassing him’.

Although the autopsy, and text messages,  provided no evidence of this. 

On 23rd July, he tweeted: ‘It’s alright to kill someone these days isn’t it? I think I might do it.’

A week later he wrote: ‘I think I might do it. #murderousmind.’

His three best friends goaded him on in a string of texts.

One message urged him to stab her and on 30th September read: ‘Killed anyone tonight?’

He replied ‘Only in my mind’.

He continued to see Natalie, and have sex with her, andat one point, three weeks before the murder, he texted pals to say: ‘I’m going to do JC tomorrow.’ 

His friends did not try to talk him out of it. 

Whelehan later told his sick group of friends that the phone call had stopped his plan, texting them: ‘I had the knife ready and everything.’

Two days later, after coming home from an evening shift at McDonald’s, Natalie who was dressed only in her pyjamas, went out with Whelehan again, after he text her about getting back together and having sex in the car. 

Adele revealed how her daughter ‘bounced’ into her room to say she was going out in the car with him, and said ‘s’laters, love you mum.’

Unbeknown to Natalie, one of Whelehan’s friends, who was later charged but found innocent to her murder, was in the boot of the car.  

Later that night, Whelehan used a multi tool given to him for his job at BT to inflict stab wounds up to 11cm (4.3in) deep in Natalie’s throat, before going on a shopping spree with blood-stained money and buying alcohol and cigars for his friends. 

He left Natalie’s body on the road, which was soon discovered by passersby, who called the ambulance.

At 11.30pm that night, paramedics declared her dead at the scene.   

‘It was dark and raining that night,’ dad Mark told the programme 

‘She didn’t stand a chance down there.’ 

The next morning Adele woke up to discover her daughter missing. 

‘I knew when I got up in the morning, at twenty past six, I knew something was wrong. 

‘I went to go to the bathroom and her door was open, and her friend was in bed but Natalie wasn’t. I said Chelsea, “Where the hell is Natalie?”, she said “I don’t know, and I’ve been ringing her”.    

Mark said ‘don’t worry about it,’ and thought his daughter was at a friend’s house, and called their other daughter Gemma to see if she was there. 

But after no friends where able to locate her, Adele began to panic more.

‘I rang 999 and I said I don’t believe my daughter’s ran away from home but she’s missing and I’m worried she might have been involved in an accident.

‘She went out in her pyjamas and she has no identification on her,’ Adele said. 

‘The lady on the phone said “hang on, how tall was she and what colour was her hair.” 

‘Unbeknown to us, the people who found and were dealing with Natalie, the detective in charge had worked out who she was and told one of her detectives to come see us. 

‘I answered the door, and he stood there saying, we believe we found your daughter,’ Mark explained.

Natalie’s mother Adele (pictured) said she has =’to live with this rage, with not knowing why’ her daughter was killed


The family are still dealing with the heartbreak eight years later, and Adele says she initially didn’t believe it was real. Gemma, Natalie’s sister is pictured left, and Mark, Natalie’s dad, right

‘It was the worst moment of my life, it knocked the stuffing right out of me.’

They immediately rang their daughter Gemma  and told her she needed to come over.

‘He was crying down the phone, he said you need to come home, my manager drove me home because I couldn’t drive. But when I was in the car, I heard a radio saying they had found a body,’  Gemma explained.

The family are still dealing with the heartbreak eight years later, and Adele says she initially didn’t believe it was real and still ‘puts a mask on’ to hide her grief’. 

‘That policeman gave me the worst news her mum wanted to hear, I was thinking this isn’t real, she should be at work, I didn’t want to think she was dead,’ she explained.

McDonald’s worker Natalie was described by her family as ‘bubbly’ and friendly. She is pictured

‘They took us to the hospital to identity her body and then it was real. 

‘My brother-in-law said he’ll never forget the scream I made, we weren’t allowed to touch her, we were kissing her face, she had the towel up to her chin,’

‘Hes now sitting in prison for 26 years, why would he do that, he must have thought he’d get away with it,’  she added.  

‘If we’d have got our hands on him he’d be dead, and i’d be in the dock,’ Mark added. 

Mark also revealed the family had tried to meet Adam through a restorative justice programme, but social workers revealed he wasn’t ready.  

‘I find it really difficult, she was my best friend, I didn’t have a lot of social people and now she’s not here, i’m finding it really difficult,’ Gemma added. 

In April 2013, Whelehan was found guilty of murder and jailed for 26 years. But the family are still searching for answers

‘Since Nat died it feels like my life is two halves,’ mum Gemma added.

‘The life before and the life now, I’d give anything to go back to the life I had before.  

‘If someone said to you what’s it like to be sad everyday you’d think she’s talking rubbish, but living without Natalie.

‘It’s just sad every day. I have to wear a mask I have to make my friends and family think i’m ok.

‘People can’t handle my pain, life without her is just crap, it’s just sad, it’s devastating, she was my baby, I just want her back. 

In April 2013, Whelehan was found guilty of murder and jailed for 26 years.  

Countdown To Murder airs on 5Star at 9pm on Tuesdays

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